Why are People Two-Faced?
I have a lot of acquaintances, but very few friends. Most of the few friends that I do have live far away from me in other states and I rarely (if ever) get to see them. I don’t have many local friends because I am very slow to trust. There have been a few times that I have let my guard down and even though my instincts are usually right on about people, sometimes they are soooo very very off. Why are people two-faced?
I’ll never understand why people are two-faced. If you don’t want to be friends with someone, or you have some sort of issue with them, why act like you like them? Why act like you care? Why make that person think you give a shit, when really you could care less about them. Why invest your time talking to them if you are only going to bash them behind their back? Can someone please explain this to me?
I try to be a kind person. I have worked on changing things about myself over the years, I control my temper much better these days. I reach out to people and try to include them much more than I ever did in the past, but now I am wondering, maybe I was better off when I stayed to myself and didn’t take crap from anyone. This “new improved” attitude of mine is only opening me up to people who want to hurt me or use me to gain something.
It’s like I’m never quite good enough. Then I ask myself, why the hell do I care? Who is this person that I have turned into and why the hell is she so soft? In fact, as I sit here typing the tears are flowing because I hate to be made to look stupid more than anything. It infuriates me.
If your intentions are not true, then please back off and go away. My life is already complicated enough without your negative impact hovering waiting to strike me down….strike me down when my back is turned that is. If you have things to say to me, then say them to me. Don’t talk about me behind my back with criticism and then smile to my face and ask me how I am doing. I don’t need it. Who needs enemies when you have friends like this.
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I was very interested to find out about this post and what you feel. I agree with you. I have two faced relatives that act like they like you,but stab you in the back later. If they keep being rude and I find out, and then act like they did nothing to me, well I am having nothing to do with them because they never change! It is so rude to criticize others when they have not done anything wrong!! It makes me mad just sitting here and I will not turn the other cheek with these really rude backstabbers and be their friend!
Totally agree! If you have one true friend in life, you are fortunate. All those who smile and then turn and flip you off behind your back, are not worth my trouble. It sucks that we have to be so non-trusting of others, but, people make it that way.