Parenting, it is truly the hardest job I have ever had.
I hate to tell my kids no. I hate to punish them when they have done wrong. I hate making them take responsibility for their actions. But it is my job as a parent to do these things. I love my kids and I want them safe. It is an emotional roller coaster, especially with a teenager. I do not hate being a parent, I just hate them thinking I am the bad guy,
I want them to realize that the things I do are because I love them. It is not because I want to “ruin” their life. It is not because I don’t want them to have fun. It’s because I want them to have a life. I want them to know it is important to make the right choices and that making the wrong choices can lead to very bad things.
It doesn’t make it easy on a parent like me when there are other parents out there that just don’t give a crap. They don’t ask where their kids are going. They don’t make them check-in, they let them run the streets. It makes me look like the bad guy.
It is an emotionally trying job. I love my kids and I hope that someday they appreciate that I cared so much and realize that I love them more than anything.
How do you get through it…knowing your kid is mad because you happen to be a responsible, caring parent? What are some things you do with your teens to keep them busy? What do you do when your kids want to hang out with the wrong crowd?
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Crystal @ Simply Being Mommy says
You are absolutely right. Being a good parent is the hardest job of all. My kids think I’m mean, but my mom says if my kids don’t like me, I’m doing a good job. Not how true that is, but I want my kids to be an integral part of society, to be doctors or teachers or social workers, I don’t want them in the county jail. I’m definitely not a perfect parent and fail many times, but I keep pushing on, for the sake of my children’s futures.
I totally agree with you Brandy! My mom used to keep us super busy so we didn’t have time to get in trouble! I was in 2 orchestras and a private lesson each week, dance classes (or drill team, depending on the year), and church activities. On top of that I was taking a very academically challenging course load. I was always in accelerated or AP classes in high school. I know homeschooling is a little different, but you could increase her school work (add 1 or 2 additional classes?). Your teen is pretty artistic. Maybe she would like art classes (Denton Rec programs?)? I could also teach her how to play the violin if you can get your hands on one. I know a good shop just outside Denton that rents instruments, if you’re interested. Morgan has also organized events/activities to help the community in the past. Maybe you could fan those coals again and encourage her to take on a new project.
To answer your last question, if your kids want to hang out with the wrong crowd I would get them involved with more activities with kids who are more likely to be a good influence. Hopefully that will give your kid time/space away from bad influences and allow them to make new healthy friendships.