We all know them…the kids that are nice as nice can be to the “right people“. But as soon as the “right people” are out of ear shot they are saying nasty, mean… hurtful things to others.
I’m not sure what to do in situations like this, besides to tell my daughters to sock them in the face smile and walk away. I don’t want them to pick up the behavior and do it back, I want them to sock them in the face. I want them to be bigger than that. I want them to not let this stuff get to them. Easier said than done. Things people say can be very hurtful to kids.
Any advice you guys can offer on handling the situation would be greatly appreciated. I want my kids to be able to handle things like this in a good way…not my way.
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Let them punch them!
Ha ha ha Kidding but thats what I would have/did/ done as a kid. Okay and what I want to do sometimes now.
I just tell my girls to walk away & if they want they can tell someone about it. Though unfortunately at the school here(which is where we are encountering this) they tell you to come to them if someone is bothering you but then when you do they tell you to not tattle. Yeah what ever.
Just tell them to take the high road and be the better person.
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Yea so far I have told her just to ignore it…but it’s hard..I want to say something and I feel like I should just bite my tongue…
I’ve told my kids the story of the kid that was my best friend- except in front of people. We hung out ALL the time after school, but he didn’t talk to me AT school. I tell about how he didn’t invite me to his birthday party, only invited the cool kids, and I went to his house during his party to hand deliver a card for him. He felt like crap. I killed him with kindness… Although I really wanted to sock him in the face!!
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Yes SMILE and act like you don’t care…this is what I was hoping for….seems so far everyone says the same thing. So it must be the right route! Thanks!
We just went through this and girls are the absolute worst. Between the ages of 9 and 14 they take on the mentality that they have to put others down to put themselves up….and everything becomes a competition of who can be the top girl. It is just a plain contest of mean! We just had my daughter focus on out of school activites, and reminded her that her best friends were at her gym, and on her softball team…not at school with her. Eventually the bullies moved on, and the year is ending much easier than it began. We did arm her with a few phrases to show things don’t bother her…the easiest one is “So” i.e. “Your shirt is just a Juicy knock-off” ( actual comment)…her reply “SO, who cares” and walk off. When she was not any easy target they moved on. Good Luck! It is rough raising girls
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You guys are definitely helping me feel better! Thanks so much for coming by with the words of wisdom!
Hmmmm…I think I might know who you are talking about! 🙂 Tell her to call them on their comments right then and address it. They’ll stop, they will be embarrassed that she confronted them. Just have her hang in there. She is a good, confident, outgoing kid and that is intimidating to other kids.