Yep, you read that right, No more favors, no more just “tip me”, no more quick fixes. From now on anyone that needs graphics, WP help or anything…I will be paid in advance. There are several people out there that owe me for work that I have done. Some of them even owe me for last year.
I have done so many free favors just because I was being nice. No more…my nice button got pushed one too many times and it broke.
I’m messaged daily for help and I always feel it’s good karma to help out those that need it. Instead I feel like I have been taken advantage of and it will not happen anymore. This is how I make a living these days…blogging, graphics and wordpress. I am sick. REALLY SICK. All of this money is going towards my medical care. I’m not going to waste my time anymore only to be taken advantage of.
Countless times I have stopped what I am doing to help people out. The only time these people contact me is when they need something from me. Not to ask me how I am doing, they just need a skill that I have…so they message me. Then I don’t hear from them again until they want more from me.
That really hurts. It hurts to feel used. I’m done.
For most of you reading this, you are probably thinking what got into her…Stress is pumping through my veins. Fear of how much my medical care is going to cost. Anger at the realization that I have been repeatedly used by people.
For most of you this is in no way directed at you. So many of you have been extremely supportive of me and I thank you all so much for that. It means a lot! Please don’t read this and think I am being ugly and mean. I just needed to vent it out and get some things off my chest.
I love you guys!
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((((())))) I am so sorry you are sick and I know stress on top of that doesn’t help! But I have to say good for you for standing up for yourself. I am like you in that I get walked on a lot so I know how much it hurts when you realize it. If there’s anything I can do to help you let me know.
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Thanks so much!
Hang in there girl and I don’t blame you a bit! In the future (like summertime) I’d like to talk to you about redoing my page completely if you’re available and feeling well.
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Sounds great Janessa!
B-b-but I need help w/(insert something here)!
I love you bunches, Brandy! *smooooooch*
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I’m thrilled to read your post. It’s about time to stand firm and demand to be paid. Your work is phenomenal. You offer a quick turn-around on graphics which impresses the heck out of me. Anyone who hires with you ought be to privileged to work with such incredible talent!
I think of you daily and pray that you get better super quick. Love ya girlfriend!
kc
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Kelli, you are probably the reason I was able to have the courage to post it! Thank you so much!
Been there! But not with blog stuff. But it’s so easy to forget about taking care of yourself and give too much.
good for you for setting boundaries. stay firm.
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Thank you so much
Oh hunny, good for you! I know I have asked for help from you before, but it is ONLY because of you that I am on WP. LOL Because you are awesome and I love you bunches.
I hope the asshats that owe you money pay you soon. Those doctor bills are not cheap especially when you don’t have insurance. Hopefully you will be able to get the treatment you need to get well. If I had enough money, I would buy you and your family an awesome health insurance plan.
Feel better soon. I’m praying for you!
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But you do not just contact me for help. Heck you have been calling me to check on me even! You also do stuff to help me and that is how a friendship works. It’s not one sided.
Well, poop. I was coming here to ask you for a bunch of freebies.
Good for you on standing up and saying “no more!” Your time is valuable so you should be compensated. After all, you’re giving THEM value, right? You’ll be amazed at how unimportant certain tasks are when people find out there’s a price tag attached. Just watch!
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Thats my girl! This is so huge for you to finally say “enough is enough!” It took me many years to do the same. You will find out real quick who your real friends are now, and those friends will be there for you through thick and thin. Everyone who knows you, loves you.
Good for you! People should not agree to pay for something and then not follow through…that is just rude.
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Brandy! Good for you!
Prayers and positive thoughts for improved health!
I know how you feel. I am so sorry people have to be hateful, using assholes. I have a few people who are the same way and they are perm. Blocked. I don’t know what medical issues you are having but I hope you have a speedy recovery and get better. (((hugs))) I am praying for you hun. Don’t stress the assholes
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I’m so sorry that others have lead you to feeling this way but it seems it is for the best. You must stand up for yourself and never ever allow anyone to take that away from you. Those who have hurt you will forever have that on there conscious and will know who they are.
In the times in which we live in today …it’s hard for us all and if you support and help someone the least they could do is return the favor .
Step back, take a deep breath and start the process of healing. Wishing you a speedy recovery ;0)
(((big ol’ hugs)))) Good for you girl! I know that stress and feeling crappy had a lot to do with the courage to write this too!
I am too much of a push over myself… not in the kind of work you do, just in general… I give & give & I would probably pass out if someone actually thanked me!
I so hope the ones that owe you money get their butts outta there “oh, I forgots” and pay you!
to quote a dumb commercial out … “it’s your $$ and dam, you need it NOW!!”
call or email anytime you need to talk, sweetie!!
I can totally understand!
I don’t have a blog, so I’ll I can offer is I’ll pray for your health to improve.
You have a right to be prepaid for work in the future since you’ve been burned in the past.
I don’t owe you money do I?? Crap, now I’m nervous.
Let me know if I can help you out in any way.
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Girl, you have to look out for you. People take advantage and, even if they weren’t, you still need to take care of your medical needs first.
I’ll keep you in my prayers.
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I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. It’s totally not okay for people to take advantage of you {hug}! I hope you start feeling better soon.
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I completely understand where you are coming from. Stay strong. You are not alone. Good things happen to those who wait.
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Damn, and Just when I figured out a Twitter page for myself LOL. I’m with Shan. I wouldn’t be on WP without you. I still say you’re awesome, and one of the nicest people I’ve worked with. That Shan though, she can be a bad influence
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Hey, that’s a great idea, before that happens to me, I will start to charge for every “favor” I do!!!!!